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What is mindset and why do you really care?

What is mindset and why do you really care?

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Your brain is tricking you

What is the difference between people that succeed and people that don’t? It’s their way of thinking, it’s the logic of their brain and how they work and think.

Luckily for the rest of us, these things can be thought, they can be trained and used for the good or evil. Science calls it mindset and you have a mindset no mater what, but you can have fixed or growing mindset.

The ones with fixed mindset are set in their way and are not in favor to do something different and think out of the box. That does not mean they are stupid or have low IQ or something like that. It just means that do not welcome new ideas and how stuff should be done.

The ones with growing mindset accept new ideas and the new way of thinking. Here it has to be said that new ideas and the new ways of thinking are not always right, but if you let them come in your mind they give you something to think about and accept or refuse that way of thinking.

Open mindset also allows for out of the box thinking. It solves problems and finds the creative solutions to the unsolved or already solved problems.

 

 

Which one are you? Do believe that your political favorite was always right? Do you think that what you think is always correct? Do you use “my way or highway” phrase? You always do as you are told and never question why? Are you answered yes to those questions, there is a chance that you have a fixed mindset.

What should you do about it? If this bothers you there are plenty of ways how you can go to a growing mindset. If this does not bother you than stop reading this article since it just a waste of your time.

Fixed or growth mindset?

Still here? Good! Now as for all things, there is no such thing as fixed mind all the way or growing and nothing but growing. So start to look for some patterns where your mindset is a little bit fixed and where you have the ability to grow.

Mindset quotes

 

Surprisingly the areas where you are more professional, there is more of the fixed mind since you invested a lot of time and energy and you are not very happy if somebody is coming down with just the opposite theory of yours. This is the time to remind yourself to practice this growing mindset and open mindset.

How? Just listen to the person ask him some questions and then decide if he is worth of trust or not. Since you can’t know everything that is to know maybe he has some new information that will help you in your professional or personal life.

The other way of keeping your mindset more open is to have positive affirmations.

  • I believe in myself completely
  • I am highly motivated and productive
  • I always work hard
  • I am doing work that I enjoy and I find it fulfilling.
  • I play a big role in my own career success.
  • I ask for and I do meaningful, wonderful and rewarding work.
  • I engage in work that impacts this world positively.
  • I believe in my ability to change the world with the work that I do.
  • This day brings me nothing but joy.
  • Today will be a gorgeous day to remember.

 

When your mind is open to this kind of stuff you can achieve many great things.

When faced with the problem, you realize that this is a problem, but you already construct how to solve it, because you know that you will find a solution sooner or later.

All you need is some training and to believe this can and will help you.

You can print it and stick it on your mirror to see it in the morning or you can use service like https://ifttt.com and have computer send you text to your mobile or email each day to remind you that you are one of a kind and worth all the trouble 🙂

Since a picture tells more than 1000 words, here are a few. And also, a video, if you decide to skip the text and go for a video 🙂

 

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Interesting video, how they do experiments with mindsets.

What has cold water to do with fear

What has cold water to do with fear

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We have a saying that fear is hollow and there is nothing around it, so it actually does not exist.

But after I have read a lot of stuff on the internet I have found out that I was full of it.

One little story for the beginning.

When I was like 8 or 9 years old, my father took me to this aunt from America, which just move there to enjoy the old age or something. So the lady bought a new stove and it was not working or something and the adults were talking about something that I did not understand, but all I could see is that if you touch some part of this appliance there would be light going on. As a kid, you are fearless since your experience is low and you do not associate your actions with consequences.

So, my goal was to keep this light going on strong, I don’t know why but it seems to be important  :). The trick was that part that kept the light on was an electric heater and the light was only light if you press it. I have pressed it and held it….. Yeah and I have burned my hand and cried like a little girl.

Would I do this now? Of course not, but that was a lesson I have learned. But you see this fear (or lack of it) kept me from touching a hot stuff. A lot of other fears will keep you away from doing something else.

This fears may not be justified and it’s holding you back from your true calling.

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How to find out if you are afraid

Well, not every fear is in plain sight. There is something that is called invisible scripts, that holds us back like “I could never have my own company”. “There is no way that I could run 42 km”. There is …. You get the point.

Many people have done it so why do you think you can’t? There are people without legs climbing the biggest mountains, there are kids that create companies that work well and there are old people (like 90 +) that are vital as we are now.

It’s a fear based thinking. To run 42 km you have to train. You have to be tired, your muscle will be sore, you have to give up yourTV shows or drinking with buddies to make some time for training. These are all feelings that you need to address to commit to this. Fear of being uncomfortable.

Fear of success is one of the most strange ones. We all like to be successful, but there is one feeling that we don’t like. What if this stuff works, what if my company starts well, will I have any time for anything else, what to do next, what, where, how…

Our brain goes in overdrive and anxiety comes in and we just abandon everything and go back to our safe zone and continue to live our life.  

We say, that it was not meant to be, I’m not made for this and other stuff, but the truth is that we are afraid, we get paralyzed and we can’t move we can’t think and that scares the crap out of us.

Irrational and rational fear

So these are irrational fears, we are afraid of what the future will bring, we worry what we will have to worry about. But there are also ration fears. Like fear of bears. Yes, those are dangerous and can hurt you. So this is the same system that prevents us from doing stupid things but this one is somehow entitled. Do you need to overcome your fear of bears? I guess if you live in the wilderness where you can meet him it would be a smart thing. If you live in the city not so much.

What to do?

  • Acknowledge your fear. Admit to yourself that you are afraid. That it is okay to be afraid and that you are able to do something about it.
  • Understand your fear. Why is this happening? Is it transferred from your parents? Some kids are afraid of the dogs simply because parents freak out every time they see a dog and start screaming at child “Don’t touch him!”  So kids go in defensive mode after this automatically even when they grow up.
  • Give it another go. You just may had some bad experience about something. I hated fish when I was young, but after awhile, I started to eat  fish again. The taste that I remembered was just a case when I did not know how to eat fish or which part of the fish is to be eaten.
  • Get to know the facts. If you have the fear of flying, check the statistics of accidents (here I will help you http://www.statisticbrain.com/airplane-crash-statistics/ ) as you can see there is one  aginst 29 million odds that you will die. If you compare this to cars “Nearly 1.3 million people die in road crashes each year, on average 3,287 deaths a day.”  Your fear is based on not knowing how the stuff works. 300 tons of metal and plastic 10.000 km in the sky can be scary stuff.
Odds of being killed on a single airline flight 1 in 29.4 million Click To Tweet

When you face your fears, you will be in shock. So it is important to keep your mind clear. You can do this with breathing and convincing yourself that everything will be okay or distract yourself.

I had a flight fear a little bit myself. When traveling on Boeing and big airplanes  it was OK, but then I went to Las Vegas and travel by small plane to Grand Canyon. This lump of metal had propellers and the ride was bumpy as hell. The flight took an hour and a half. After 15 minutes I was all worried up what will be if we fall down and every time the plane shook (and it was ever 5 sec). I hold my arm rest a bit stronger. I have realized that I can not survive like this, so I let it go. I said to myself “fuck it if I die I die, I can’t help it now that I’m up here”. My brain needed some convincing but after 5 minutes I was relaxed and enjoying the flight and every flight after that.

Cold showers

If you would like to train, your body and mind to get used to something not so pleasant, and to not be a big shock to your body when it happens there is a great exercise that everybody can do.

Take a cold shower, if you think you are tough then do it ice cold. For us wimps you can do it in a more humane way, that is that you go into the shower and open first warm water and then gradually, got to the cold one. When you reach the cold one, don’t just suffer through, try to relax your body, try to control your breathing. I know It is not easy, but it is not meant to be 🙂   

The worst thing that could happen

For the end of this, when facing fears, remember what’s the worst thing that could happen. What can you do to prevent it and learn all the fact you can about your fears?

Over to you

What is your fear? Do you manage it or hide it? What is your experience?

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Why habits will change your life

Why habits will change your life

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Why build new habits?

 

We live in a society that always needs more from us. More effort, more concentration, more energy, and more productivity. But we are the same, sure we have our computers, we have our clouds and we have our smartphones. But ask yourself, how much time did it take you to start using your new to-do app in your smartphone? Hmmm, that long huh? Did you decide which app you will use? Frustrated about all the choices?

Well, let me tell you a little secret it’s not an app fault it’s yours and yours only. You did not learn some basic skills and habits to be using this tool. Someone once said monkey with a tool is still a monkey.

So I know what is on your mind, these tools are not so difficult to use. I just have to take some time and start using it. It will be like my second skin. I will be diligent, I will write everything on it. I have this thing always with me, I will set reminders and I will be productive deem it! I will be organized whatever it takes!

So this is like a day or two, one week at best, but there come some busy days, some troubles here, some problems here and your app gets forgotten and you think, to hell with it I didn’t record the last week so it’s pointless.

You eventually find new software or try Siri or Google now or miss M that is the new rage from big blue F. You find it fancy, you find it easy to use  (or not!), your life could not be any better. One week later it’s the same story all over again. 

WHAYYYY?? You ask… This should not be so difficult!

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